Monday, 31 August 2015

Many Hands Make Light Work

First Seen on The Fatherheart 
This past weekend we had the privilege of attending a baby-shower for a place of Safety. Incidentally, this particular place of safety looked after our little one before he came home to us. Such a wonderful idea, getting a bunch of people together, most of whom would never be at a place to hear about the victories and losses experienced at a home like this.
Some stories gave you such hope and others reached deep within and had people questioning how others could be so cruel to those so small. Stories of sheer determination being found in the most unlikely places arose, from Corporate grinders turning their lives around to babies who in spite of the outside world’s desire to abort them, refused to give up, valiantly fought the odds, defeated cruel intentions and made their way into the hearts and lives of forever families.
But, and there always seems to be a “but”, what will result from an encounter like this? Even though many sat, listening intently, sharing a moment of vulnerability and agreeing with the mission, will anyone be moved from being a fan of the idea to becoming a champion of the cause?
I have two avenues I would like people to explore, the one is simple. It doesn’t hurt, it probably won’t even be felt by most and yet it will create something that may result in a ripple that will affect change that was never expected. The second idea, will require a little effort. I will need a few fearless  explorers to go on a journey that in spite of their feelings may lead them into a future where their hearts and lives are rocked to their core, where they become partners in prophetically altering the course of people’s lives. Whatever avenue is taken, I am certain, a difference will be made and lives changed for the better.
The first option is something I have been mulling over for far too long. The irony of money is that no-one has enough, yet there is more than enough to go around. We tend to look at mountains and see the size of our shovel and decide the project is impossible. We believe that without the heavy machinery, we toil in vain. Yet Jesus tells us, the harvest is great, but the workers are few (Mathew 9:37). He doesn’t say the harvest is great, pity about our little shovel! Theres a saying that begs the question “How do you eat an elephant?” The answer is, one bite at a time. When the task is huge, we focus on the size of the whole and not the size of our whole. When things are broken up, the impossible becomes possible. Jesus shows us clearly that the issue we will face is not the harvest or the task but the manpower.
The idea of funding homes, adoptions, medical costs etc in the process of adopting is huge and we typically rely on big business, corporates, to come to the party and donate through events, golf days, fundraisers etc. Mostly for the incentive of tax breaks or corporate noddy badges that tell every one that you’re a “Good guy”. Don’t get me wrong, this needs to continue and if this is you, from the bottom of my heart thank you!

But what about you and me?

What about giving up 2 cappuccinos once a month? What if your decrease in caffeine resulted in you being a part of the greatest fund raising initiative since the lottery. What if you could be a part of effecting massive change from the comfort of your closed circle of friends. What if you could see on a monthly basis that you were a part of supplying thousands of nappies, formula, medicines, food, homes, caregivers or whatever else is needed.
I want to start a fund! It’s called the fatherheart fund. It starts with me picking 10 people plus me, so 11, and then having those 10 each find 10 more. Basically a pyramid scheme approach with the beneficiaries being places of safety and orphans. Before your discredit the idea, think about this, if I get 10, those 10 get 10 each and then those 10 find themselves 10 each, with only going to the third tier, the fund is generating over R50 000.00 per month. That’s over half a million every year aimed directly at the needs arising out of these homes and the adoption process. BOOM! All of a sudden, with the increase in shovels, moving the mountain may still be difficult, but it’s no longer impossible.
Let me have your thoughts, this is happening and I’d love input!
The second avenue, yup the harder route is this. Even though I don’t believe everyone should adopt, I do believe everyone should consider adoption. I have found that even though some say “I could never do what you’re doing” or “That’s not for us” my experience is that no-one actually puts any real effort into putting themselves in the position of meeting one of these little super stars, no-one does any reading or active inquiring into whether they actually could do what others do. The response to adoption is often knee jerk, based on opinion and a faulty belief in our own financial and emotional capacity.
I’m not saying you must, I believe you should, but at least put some thought into your response. take a look at the following:
Give them a call, find out what they’re about, can you help, how can you help. You’d be amazed at how your capacity grows. It’s like a muscle, work it a bit and it grows, you look and feel better and life takes on a whole new meaning.

Thursday, 27 August 2015

ConCourt to consider genetic link on surrogacy law

The Constitutional Court is set to consider whether the genetic-link requirement in surrogacy law should remain.

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 The Constitutional Court is set to consider whether the genetic-link requirement in surrogacy law should remain

Sunday, 16 August 2015

Lies, damned lies and statistics: Unravelling South Africa’s child trafficking conundrum

A very thought provoking article 

In modern society there are few things as truly evil as human trafficking, especially when it involves children, and Home Affairs Minister Malusi Gigaba’s argument for those afflicted by the scourge is compelling. But his supposed solution has once again been called into question along with the statistical basis for the plan. It begs the question that if the minister’s strategy is really about solving South Africa’s child trafficking problem why, in a style reminiscent of ‘Saving Private Ryan’, is he willing to risk the lives and livelihoods of many for the sake of the ones and twos. While it is difficult to ignore the fervor with which he speaks, it is equally difficult to avoid the sense that his department is playing an elaborate game of Top Trumps with stakes that are appallingly high. Beyond the oratory, what does the research say about how to prevent trafficking?

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Friday, 7 August 2015

Baby left on doorstep

First seen on News24 written by Chelsea Pieterse

JUST two hours old, a newborn baby wrapped in a orange throw, wide-eyed and looking around without making a sound, was left on the doorstep of a home in Cottonwood Lane, Panorama Gardens, yesterday morning.

The tiny baby girl, nicknamed Usiphile, which means “given to us”, was believed to be just two hours old when she was found on the doorstep of the Cottonwood Lane home. The umbilical cord was still attached and untied while dried amniotic fluid was still in her hair.

Homeowner Cebo Ntombelo found the baby girl when he walked out of his house to take his two children, aged seven and eight, to school.

His wife, Cindy, said her husband found the baby on the doorstep wrapped in the throw and covered in blood.

“It was very scary but we were happy to see she was alive.

“We took her into the house as it was cold outside and then we called the police right away.

“She was very cute, and had the chubbiest little cheeks. I don’t know how any mother can carry a child for nine months and then just abandon their own baby,” said Ntombela.

ER24 spokesperson Russel Meiring said when paramedics arrived they immediately assessed the child and found that she had suffered mild hypothermia but was in a stable condition.

“The young patient was treated by advanced life support paramedics and transported to Northdale Hospital for further assessment and treatment.”

Pietermaritzburg SAPS spokesperson Constable Mthokozisi Ngobese said the mother of the abandoned child had been found by police and was arrested yesterday afternoon.

“We can confirm the incident and the mother has been arrested and charged with child abandonment.”

The mother is expected to appear in court today.

Child Welfare director Julie Todd said that most babies who were abandoned were born at home and not at a hospital or clinic where the baby and mother would be monitored.

“Often these women think they do not have any alternatives and their families will not accept the baby and help look after it. They feel they need to abandon the baby.”

She said Child Welfare often found that the family of the woman were “happy to accept the child” and there was no reason to abandon the baby for fear of being rejected.

“If a woman has a baby and feels she cannot keep it because of her circumstances we encourage her to bring the baby to our organisation where we will take the baby into temporary care and assist the mother.”

She said it was important to consider the best interests of the infant.

She added that if the public were to come across an abandoned baby, that they should call paramedics immediately as well as child services and police.

A report by National Adoption Coalition South Africa (Nacsa) consultant Dee Blackie published in May last year said that an estimated 3 500 babies were abandoned in South Africa in 2010.

“There are no current statistics detailing the number of children who are abandoned in South Africa on an annual basis, but most child protection organisations believe that the numbers have increased significantly over the past decade,” said Blackie’s report.

Statistics gathered in the report also showed that of the 18,5 million children in South Africa, 4,5 million do not live with their parents.

“Orphans have increased 30% over the decade to approximately 5,2 million children.

“An estimated 150 000 children live in child-headed households, over 13 000 live in residential care facilities and an estimated 10 000 live on the streets of South Africa,” said Blackie.

The report also stated that ano-nymous child abandonment is a criminal offence with mothers facing charges such as concealment of birth and attempted murder.

“Baby safes are considered illegal in terms of the Children’s Act, however, these are being opened up more frequently given the increase in abandonment,” Blackie added